The “philosophy”
The consequence of this ‘entirely individual free choice’ is reflected in the following ´philosophy´.
Meaning and essence of individual free choice
Research is required into the relationship between, on the one hand, making people aware of their own free choice in relation to the various aspects of their own death and, on the other hand, the bereavement process after the loss of a loved one.
Individual choice prior to death
Making an individual choice about how and where to die: at home, in hospital or hospice, or somewhere else. The decision is often made in an ad hoc manner, as unexpected circumstances dictate necessary action that has not been previously considered. But there are many options, each with its own conditions and consequences. And there is also demand for help when dying. This illustrates the many possibilities available if you make your own decisions in good time. Effective help when dying usually requires a protracted procedure.
The individual choice concerning how the body is dealt with
Take for example the following aspects:
- the choice between burial or cremation, with the associated consequences, including a grave or where to lay the ashes;
- or the choice to donate organs or dedicate them to science, and the specific consequences of this decision for next of kin;
- drafting a newspaper announcement and mourning cards (or making them yourself?);
- notifying the authorities;
- preparing the deceased;
- placing the deceased on the bier in their own home;
- constructing a coffin and decorating it yourself;
- the number of cars in the funeral procession;
- the farewell ceremony, etc. etc.
Nearly all organisations involved in funerary business have extensive information on all these matters. This information must be referred to; no need to re-invent the wheel!
Conscious dealing with the pain of saying farewell
The way in which next of kin wish to commemorate the deceased is essential. This remembrance is an important part of the mourning process. It seems that people increasingly feel the need to remember their loved ones communally. Memorial gatherings at cemeteries and crematoria are an example of this. The large number of visitors to the ‘Concerto in Memoriam’ organised by The Facultatieve Group every year at Westerveld, is also an excellent example.
The ‘philosophy’ indicates therefore in which fields the Royal Dutch 'Facultatieve’ wishes to be active. Individual free choice and, where possible, making use of existing data, are fundamental principles for all activities. However this does not negate the need to give substance to the Royal Facultatieve’s position as a central information source for everyone affected by ‘death’.
